Declutter 10 items from your junk drawer or in my case...the junk container.
3 x expired dog tags...keeping them in case we have to show proof of past licensing?!
3 x puzzle pieces...what if we find the puzzle somewhere in the Lower Mainland.
1 x lock...where is the key?
1 x key chain..still no key.
6 x plastic thingies...as soon as you attach the word thingy to an item you should probably get rid of it.
1 x fruit loop...immaculate...those preservatives hold up.
1 x metal doohickey...same rules as thingy.
There were tons more screws, nails, sticky tabs, etc., but my tired decision-making brain allowed me to stop.
Almost for 25 years, I have had a junk container. It's a red metal container that resides in the buffet of my dining area. I can probably count on my hand the number of times I have accessed it to retrieve something, but have dumped objects in it innumerable times. Every once in a while, I will do a little cleanout but quickly feel the overwhelm, cease sorting, and pack it away for another day.
Today was no different.
Upon opening the container and dumping the contents on the table, I was hit with a wave of overwhelm and indecision. Funny enough, the items are tiny, but have caused more consternation than any other day of decluttering. "What if I need that tiny nail!" my brain screams.
When I pick up each item individually, a nail or a screw, I know that I can replace these objects and probably would if I found myself in a position of needing them. I would not even remember I had them.
Sitting online for a Zoom class, the mentor focuses predominantly on mindset. One of the lessons which is being hammered into our heads is that leaders do not reside in indecision. They face a problem, make a decision, and right or wrong, they go with it. I think I can safely assume then that CEOs do not have junk drawers...at least the good ones don't.
While I am not interested in determining whether I am leader material currently, what I have been working on is indecision. Questions like what movie do you want to see, would you like a cup of tea, and would I like fries with that can sometimes be pondered longer than is comfortable. Part of it I blame on my always-on, decision-fatigued brain. The other part belongs to the people-pleasing part of me that wonders if the movie I want to see is what the other person wants to see or whether I am putting someone out by desiring tea and/or fries. Life feels hard when you need to think for other people as well.
Hold on a sec.
I'm back! After I typed that last sentence, I realized that indecision and people-pleasing are paradigms I am trying hard to change. I went back to my junk container, swallowed the overwhelm, and got rid of everything except what I could justify keeping. I put away things like dice with the games and put broken jewelry aside for my husband to take to a repair shop he passes. I still feel unsure all my decisions were correct, but uncertainty stills feels better than indecision.
Even Elmer went. I can't remember where he came from.
I don't want the words on my gravestone to read..."Here lies Jane. She couldn't decide if she wanted to be mummified, cremated, or buried in a coffin so we've put her in a cardboard box until she makes up her mind."
So, I want to see Marry Me, I would love a cup of tea, and you're damn right I want fries with that...large size.
This is the aftermath of decisive!
Time doesn't wait. Indecision will only let opportunities slip by. Pick a path and walk confidently with your heart behind every step.
- Doe Zantamta